60 would you rather questions for couples, from sweet to spicy

La Brasa · 5 October 2026 · 5 min read

"Would you rather" is the easiest way to learn something new about someone you already know well. The questions are light, the answers are quick, and the follow-up ("wait, why?") is where the good conversations start.

Below are sixty questions in three rounds: sweet, romantic and spicy. Start at the top. If you both laugh at an answer, stay on it for a minute. The point isn't to finish the list; it's to find the two or three answers you didn't see coming.

How to play so it actually goes somewhere

• Answer at the same time. Count to three and say it, or write it down. Otherwise one of you just agrees with the other.
• Always ask "why?" The choice is the excuse; the reason is the conversation.
• No wrong answers, no debates. If your partner would rather have a cold shower than a warm one, that's information, not a problem.
• Skip freely. A pass is fine. Come back to it another night if you like.

Round 1: sweet

Easy ones to warm up, good for a long drive or a dinner out.

1. Breakfast in bed, or dinner out somewhere new?
2. A beach holiday, or a city break?
3. Cook dinner together, or order in and stay on the sofa?
4. A morning walk together, or an extra hour in bed?
5. A surprise you planned, or one planned for you?
6. Relive our first date, or skip ahead to a date ten years from now?
7. A house in the countryside, or a flat in the centre of town?
8. Always know what your partner is thinking, or never be able to guess?
9. A road trip with no plan, or a perfect itinerary?
10. Dance badly in the kitchen, or sing badly in the car?
11. Board games all night, or a film marathon?
12. A big wedding-style party, or a dinner for the two of you?
13. Get a pet together, or get a plant and see if it survives first?
14. A week with no phones, or a week with no sugar?
15. Hear "I love you" every day, or be shown it every day without words?
16. Give a speech about your partner, or listen to one about you?
17. Travel back to when you met, or forward to see where you end up?
18. A cosy winter weekend, or a long summer evening?
19. Be the one who always remembers anniversaries, or the one who plans the surprises?
20. Laugh until you cry, or have the deepest conversation of your life?

Round 2: romantic

Slower, closer, better with the lights a bit lower.

21. A slow dance at home, or a candlelit bath?
22. A love letter, or a surprise date?
23. Be kissed when you least expect it, or when you've been waiting all day?
24. Fall asleep holding hands, or wrapped up together?
25. A whispered compliment in public, or a long one in private?
26. Watch the sunrise together, or the sunset?
27. A weekend away with no plans, or a perfectly planned one-night escape?
28. Be the little spoon, or the big spoon?
29. Get a handwritten note in your bag, or a voice message in the middle of the day?
30. Re-create your first kiss, or improve on it?
31. A massage you give, or one you receive?
32. Spend an evening only talking, or only touching?
33. Hear what your partner noticed about you the day you met, or what they notice now?
34. A rainy afternoon in bed, or a starry night outside?
35. Be serenaded, or be read to?
36. A kiss on the forehead, or a kiss on the neck?
37. Dress up for each other at home, or go out somewhere fancy?
38. Plan the next date, or be surprised by it?
39. Hold hands under the table, or catch each other's eye across a room?
40. A slow morning together, or a late night that turns into morning?

Round 3: spicy

For when you're both in the mood to flirt. Keep it playful; you can always come back to round 2.

41. Lights on, or candles only?
42. Be undressed slowly, or do the undressing?
43. A long, slow evening, or a surprise that can't wait?
44. Be told exactly what your partner wants, or have them show you?
45. Take the lead tonight, or be led?
46. A blindfold, or eye contact the whole time?
47. Be teased all day by message, or by a look across the room?
48. Somewhere new at home, or somewhere new altogether?
49. A shower together, or a bath together?
50. Whisper, or say it out loud?
51. Plan it all day, or let it happen out of nowhere?
52. A massage that turns into more, or one that stays a massage on purpose?
53. Try something new tonight, or do your favourite thing really, really well?
54. Hear what your partner thinks about when you're apart, or tell them what you think about?
55. Dress up for your partner, or have them dress up for you?
56. Kisses everywhere except where you want them most, or straight to the point?
57. Make a list of things to try, or pick one at random?
58. A morning surprise, or a midnight one?
59. Be the one who gets the most attention tonight, or the one who gives it?
60. Tell each other a fantasy, or act one out?

When an answer surprises you

That's the good part. If your partner picks something you'd never have guessed, ask about it with curiosity rather than judgement: "Tell me more" works better than "Really?". Some of the best things couples try together start as a throwaway answer in a game like this.

And if a question lands badly, laugh it off and move on. Games work because nobody has to defend their answer.

Play it in La Brasa

La Brasa has Would you rather built in, in packs from everyday to spicy. You can each answer on your own time and see your partner's pick only once you've both answered, so nobody copies. Or play together on one phone. Every Monday there's something new, including limited packs for the seasons.

Get it on Google Play

Not sure where to start? Take the spice-type quiz and find out what kind of night suits the two of you.