50 flirty questions for couples to ask tonight (kept sweet)
Flirting doesn't stop being fun once you're together; it just gets forgotten under the dishes. A good flirty question gives your partner the chance to say something nice about you, and you the chance to hear it. Here are 50, from playful to warm, to ask over dinner, in bed or by text.
They stay sweet on purpose: affectionate, sensual, a little teasing, never crude. That's the same range as the first two levels in La Brasa.
How to keep it fun
- Answer your own question. Flirting is a game for two. If you ask, you answer too.
- One at the right moment. A question dropped in while you're cooking lands better than a list read out at the table.
- Be specific when you answer. "That blue shirt, at your sister's party" beats "everything".
- Anyone can pass. A laugh and a pass are good answers too.
- Stop while it's still fun. Leave them wanting the next question.
Playful warm-ups
- What was the first thing you noticed about me?
- On a scale of one to ten, how good am I at flirting? Be honest.
- What's my most attractive habit that I don't know about?
- Which of my outfits would you hide so I can't wear it anywhere else?
- What's the cheesiest line that would actually work on you?
- If we met tonight for the first time, would you come and talk to me?
- What's your favourite thing I say?
- Which song makes you think of me in a way you'd rather not explain?
- Who flirted first, you or me?
- What's one thing I do that you find irresistible, even when you're annoyed with me?
About attraction
- When do you find me most attractive?
- What do I do with my hands that you like?
- What's your favourite way I look at you?
- Which photo of me is your favourite, and why?
- What's the most attractive thing I've ever said to you?
- When did you last catch yourself staring at me?
- What do I wear that you like best?
- What's something about my voice you like?
- What small thing do I do that makes you want to kiss me?
- If you could relive one moment where you thought "wow", which would it be?
Kisses and closeness
- Which kiss of ours do you still think about?
- What's your favourite kind of kiss: slow, surprise, or the one at the door?
- Where do you most like to be kissed?
- Do you prefer a long hug or a long kiss?
- What's the best way to wake you up?
- What kind of touch says "I want you close" to you?
- Would you rather a slow dance in the kitchen or a slow massage on the sofa?
- What's your favourite place to be close to me?
- What makes a hug feel like more than a hug?
- When do you most want to be close to me during the day?
Memories
- When did you first want to kiss me?
- What did you think on our first date that you didn't say?
- What's the most romantic moment we've had in an ordinary place?
- What's a night of ours you'd happily live again?
- Which trip of ours had the best evenings?
- When did you realise you were falling for me?
- What's the best surprise I've ever given you?
- Which message from me made you smile like an idiot?
About tonight
- If tonight could be anything, what would it be?
- What would turn a normal evening at home into a date for you?
- Candles, music or both?
- What should I wear tonight?
- What's one thing you'd like me to do tonight, without asking?
- Early night together or a late one?
By text
- What would you be doing if I were next to you right now?
- What's the first thing you'll do when you see me tonight?
- Describe your perfect evening with me in three words.
- What did you think about me today?
- What are you looking forward to tonight?
- If you could send me one emoji to say how you feel about me, which would it be?
When one of you wants more, or less
A flirty question is an invitation, not a request. If your partner answers playfully and moves on, that's an answer too. And if you'd like to talk about wanting different things, that's a different conversation: here's how to talk about what you want, and what helps when one of you wants more.
Too shy to ask out loud?
In La Brasa you each rate the same ideas privately, from Mild to Fiery, at the level you choose. A card only shows up for both of you when you both want it, so you find out what you'd both enjoy without anyone asking first, and your partner never sees what you passed on.
Get it on Google PlayWant something to play instead? Try 60 would you rather questions or the printable yes, no, maybe list. And for the opposite end of the evening, 50 deep questions for couples.
Questions
What are good flirty questions to ask your partner?
Ones that let your partner say something nice about you, or about the two of you: when they find you most attractive, which kiss they still think about, what you wear that they love. Flirty works best when it's warm and specific, not crude.
How do you ask flirty questions without it being awkward?
Ask with a smile, answer your own question too, and keep it light: one question at the right moment beats a list read out loud. Agree that anyone can pass, and stop while it's still fun.
What are flirty questions to ask over text?
Short ones that are easy to answer and fun to read later: what they'd do if you were there right now, which photo of you they like best, what they're looking forward to tonight. A few are in the by-text section of this post.